what is islam in political and relgiouss sense

Islam born out of the mind of muhammmad was a political dictate, came into being as a pursuit to achieve an impactful life. He had certain issues with the pagans of that time and having born into them he wanted to created a different society, he married a jewish girl who was older than he was, he learned about judaism from her and copied it to create islam, not having able to read and write, he learned it orally from her.

now although it is debatable whether the condition of people during that time was really bad or not, but given that it was arabia, it has always been dry state and at that time when  growing crops was a luxury it is not hard to believe that the people over there could be in conflict with eachother all the time, so in order to resolve  it and make it fall under one umbrella, and to conquer other states to provide better condition for his people and himself, he created Islam. which is evident by understanding that islam is nothing but commandments by which muslims are expected to adhere to.

he didnt forbid taking female slaves and made a patriachical society by which a man can marry upto 4 women but a woman only one, and children to be taken as a gift of god, which isnt a bad thing but having observed it muslims dont indulge in family planning.

In short islam is laws, by following which it claims peace is achievable, it makes a claim that by applying it a person will achieve peace, although a idea of peace in itself is debatable of existence but that is another matter.

he believed the way he saw  everything to be is right way, and forced in a mental blockade sense in the lives of other people and his followers there laws;  he lured others, particularly people belonging to his own tribe by  luring them with better life. Hee probably did that because the jewish faith that he had seen which was probably more prosperous at that time, would make life better for him  as a trader, a warlord and off course sexually he would take more woman.

overwhelming sadness


Its been quite a day, i do not know from where it really started but the overcoming sadness is compelled against me to make me feel worried about certain things in life, which at first I didn't held so close to me. But as those things keep on going away from me, I realize How much I miss them, to care for something and giving it all , is all that anybody wants and so to me not able to do this has been a disaster  it seems, i feel overwhelmed by my failure. I hope they are alright , for I wish nothing else but their well-being, this has been torturous event, at first I thought was helping them but soon it grew upon me , that  it is just me who care for them, a society in a whole  , doesn't bother at all. Wish I had been around much more groomed society which had know what it is to love. I cannot see  them die around me , fighting for little things  which the world could provide so easily.
Life is so fragile, one bad things and it shatters into pieces and it takes lot of work to get it glued back together , but it doesn't really look the same anymore. we seek so many things outside of us , in our friends, in the society we try to get their attention by placing ourselves as superior like they want us to be, it is a flawed thing to do, they do no accept us for what we are and we still just put ourselves at their mercy.
I wish to die  after doing something, although i do feel brittle ;but still i dont want to be born again, and go through these things all over again, I want this cycle to end, I cant take it; these feelings are overpowering my inherent self.  For that I will do whatever it takes from now on, nothing in life except love really matters to me. Although many people throw around the word 'Love' a lot, without understanding its meaning, but I guess I have finally understood it. It is giving  without  expectations in return , and it grows so deep it seems that you ignore all the bad things about them and even a little scratch that happens to them is enough to make you depressed to the core of yourself. I feel it, perhaps this is what is worrying me, I care for them, people might say otherwise but I feel them, their unsaid laughter, fear, sadnesss; I understand them. well, this too worries me, if they go anywhere else who will understand their unsaid things. They dont say a lot , but their their eyes speak the truth and that truth draws you close,  I feel them but I know I am weak, I dont want to be weak; I will do whatever it takes, I dont want to be like this anymore.

FEELING DISTANCE

You can feel them pulling away. You can see it. They may have even said it straight out, "I'm leaving you." Often this sets off a number of emotional alarm clocks at their highest volume and intensity. Few times in life is it easier to panic. Few times in life is it more important you don't.

It feels like a disaster doesn't it? Well you've watched disaster movies. You know how it goes. The ones who panic die off early in the movie. They are small part actors and you never remember their names. The one's who keep their heads in the crisis tend to walk out of the flaming building with the other most attractive character on their arm. If you want to win them back you must make a decision now to either panic and most likely lose your goal before you get close to it or to get in your brain, utilize your anxiety, depression, anger, and loneliness. And while you're at it don't forget to utilize rather than suffer all that pain you've been given.

Chances are you're getting a lot of conflicting advice from folks. It all boils down to fish or cut bait. The advice I give to win a love back starts with the same advice as for letting go.

Let go.

Romance, love, sex, it's always a dance. It's all back and forward, back and forward. When your love pulls back, then back again and you are still moving forward, it's no longer a dance, it's a chase. And what do people do when we chase after their affection? They run.

I imagine your love is prepared for the chase to continue, and if I'm right it makes them feel guilty. How often does guilt buy love and attraction? Not often. I've never seen it. Have you?

If anything will work at all it is to let go. Not let go and sit home and suffer, but let go and go have a blast every day. This may sound impossible. But if your love is strong enough, if your goal of winning them back is compelling enough; you can do anything you have to do. Letting go and having a blast strengthens your position several ways.

1. It surprises them. They have taken your suffering for granted. They assume it. That's the person they're dumping. Who the hell is this person having so much fun? Curiosity is compelling. You get happy and relaxed with this and it hits them like a bucket of cold water that they don't know you quite as well as they thought they did.
2. We're all sexier and more attractive when we're having a blast than when we're depressed. It's far more compelling than making them responsible for our happiness.
3. When they see beyond a shadow of a doubt you're no longer chasing after their affection they can quit running and make their decision based on what they want instead of the chase they're running from.
4. We often take each other for granted. Part of the reason you've stopped taking them for granted right now is they've pulled back. The water in the well really is running dry. If your love will come back it will be after "they" realize all that's missing from life without you. They can't know what that is till you've pulled back as well.

Impatience is your enemy. It compells you to take action out of fear and we know that causes more mistakes and bigger mistakes. Generally impatience cannot be just pressed down, it creeps out and peeps out when you least expect it. Impatience is just that little voice inside your head that tells you, you can't be happy until you know your love is glad to be back. There's only one thing that really squashes impatience - making yourself go have so much fun every day that your brain has to go, "well, duuuuh, guess I can be happy right now and continue taking strategic actions towards my goal." A former Boss of mine had a standard rule for submitting loan applications, "Don't hurry up to get a turn down." If it's important, you must focus more on getting it right than doing it in a hurry.

I promise you , you're far more likely to win them back the more you enjoy this process and the less you suffer it. If you think that's impossible, think again. The most successful people on earth choose to enjoy challenges rather than be swamped by them. You must only make a decision now whether or not this goal is important enough for you to use your head or unimportant enough for you to allow your compulsions to defeat you. It's up to you.

I've seen this advice bring couples back together after restraining orders have been issued and clients have been arrested for breaking them. I don't guarantee it to work everytime and it works better than anything else. And if it doesn't work to win them back, in the process you've been strengthened and prepared to let go for good far more comfortably than you are right now.

Your fear is that if you let go you'll lose them. In fact you're more likely to lose them if you don't.

By the way I know taking this advice is a lot more challenging than giving it because I've done both.

Whoever you are, my prayer and my faith are with you. This is a helluva a "bump" on life's road, but you're stronger than you realize and you will be alright. If it's terribly important to you and you really work at this recipe you'll do quite a bit better than alright.

I was talking to a girl the other day that was following a recipe for grief. Her rule was that she was not promiscuious. It's a good rule. She felt like a relationship really had to be serious before she put out. Only under the influence of starry nights and a glass of something bubbly she'd put out and then decide it must be serious, this must be the one since she did in fact put out. This now caused her to treat the poor guy like "hey, we're destiny" and he would run from her speed and consequently her relationships were ending in disaster before they ever started. I suggested she change her rule. I suggested her new rule be that if she really liked and respected the guy and visa versa; if there was chemistry and they were safe.... then it was okay to have sex without this having to be "her soulmate." Either that or cut out mixing starry nights, bubbly and attractive men.

Many will disagree and yet she seems far, far happier for the change.

For some there is the added problem of your love thinking they're in love with someone else. That's about as hard a romantic bump in life as there is. You hate your rival. And yet, many times I've seen the other person be the key that puts your relationship back together. HOW??? Simple, while you've got alarm clocks going off like crazy the one you love is in the flush of infatuation. Infatuation is not love. Looks like it, feels like it, but it isn't love. Love is when you look at someone and say "I know all their faults and even if they never change a thing - I love them enough to stay." A person who's infatuated isn't qualified to make that statement. Not that it stops them or stops them from believing it. It's just good to know.

When you utilize your alarm clocks and make yourself have so much fun you can be patient.... now they have time alone with the new Mr. or Miss wonderful. Infatuation moves into the stage of disillusionment. They wonder what they saw in the new one in the first place. If at the same time they see you're not chasing them they can far more easily find themselves thinking "Why the new one isn't as good as the other one, am I being an idiot here or what?"

One girl told me, "But I can't have fun while I'm picturing them together!" Good point. Quit picturing things that hurt. Have three things you love to think about and three things you love to do in mind and handy at all times. When the picture starts, treat it like an alarm clock telling you to "Right now this very minute, think and do something else fun!" The first few times will be a little difficult, after that it's easier.

Finally, last but not least ask yourself these hard questions. Do I really love this person? Really? Do I love them enough to let them go? Do I love them enough to let go and have fun today and tomorrow and the days after that? Or is my love so selfish that I can only be happy if they're here serving my emotional needs no matter how much they may not want to right now?

Feeling like you're losing someone you love can be rough. It demands hard questions be answered. Serious decisions must be made. You're stronger than you realize. You can do whatever you need do to make your life healthier and happier if you choose to. Give it some thought, time and prayer and then choose.

"The mind, once stretched by an empowering idea,
can never fully shrink to its original dimensions."